Advice For Finding Lost Feelings of Love: 5 Tips
Author: Marie-Claire Smith

Even after the love that your relationship once knew has faded,
there always remains hope that it can be rekindled. In the
present moment, the lost feelings of love may be all that are
left: faint reminders of the burning passion and joy that once
existed between the two of you. Those feelings still exist
somewhere deep inside you, but you may also find that they seem
to have a real, material existence "out there" somewhere. And,
you may suspect that your lover (or ex) shares your hidden hope
that the love you once shared can be revived.

If you feel the need to rekindle your lost feelings of love,
try these 5 tips for finding and nurturing those feelings again:


Tip #1: Ask yourself whether there are any insurmountable
barriers to your love:

If there is to be any hope that you can breathe life back into
your love, you must first be totally honest with yourself.
Namely, is there anything that is permanently standing between
you and a revived relationship with him or her? For example, if
you feel you can never trust or respect your partner or
ex-partner again because of something they did, your love may
not be salvageable. Trust and respect are two cornerstones in
the foundation of any healthy relationship.

Tip #2: Make sure you still find him or her physically
attractive:

Do you - or could you - still find your lover physically
attractive? Let's face it: most of us will agree that there is
more to personal attraction than just good looks, and most
successful relationships require a strong physical attraction
between the partners. You may feel like your partner has not
been taking care of himself or herself in terms of their body
weight, skin, hair or clothing. But, before you get too critical
of them, make sure that you take a good look at yourself, as
well. Often, couples tend to follow each others' cues in terms
of how much attention they put into their own appearance. Making
yourself look and feel your best may influence your partner to
do the same.

Tip #3: Think of the things that bother you most about the
person (and then forget them!):

Think back to the time the two of you started dating: you
probably saw your lover as pretty much flawless, and you treated
them as such. They could do no wrong, or so it seemed. Then,
over time, little imperfections that you never noticed probably
started to pop up, right? More recently, as the feelings of love
between you started to fade, it is likely those imperfections
started to stick out like a sore thumb and you couldn't help but
notice them. What to do about these bothersome traits? Unless
those traits cause you to actually respect or trust the person
less (see Tip #1), you just need to do one thing: forget those
traits and move on.

Tip #4: Focus on what you can create together for the future:

As corny as it sounds, and I am sure you have heard every
motivational speaker and inspirational talk show guest say the
following already, but here goes: the past does not equal the
future. The future is unwritten. The future is yours to create.
(Okay, you get it!). One of the traps that couples who are
trying to make a go of it again fall into is that they
immediately dive into their trying to fix their old problems.
Hint: instead, put your energy into focusing on what the two of
your can control: your future.

Tip #5: Start by telling him or her something that you
appreciate about them:

We all like to hear good things about ourselves from those we
care about. Are we smart? Do we have great hair? Pretty eyes?
Are we accomplished in the career world? Do we have a special
skill? We love to hear about those things that make us special.
If you truly intend to make it work with your lover or your ex,
take the time to regularly remind him or her of all of those
things about them that fill you with admiration, awe, or that
warm, tingly feeling that comes with physical attraction.

Finding your lost feelings of love for your current or ex
boyfriend, girlfriend, fling, or spouse does not need to be a
challenge. Follow these tips and make the journey back to love
one filled with warmth, promise, and a focus on better things to
come.


About The Author: Do you agree that your love is worth fighting
for? Read my reviews of three proven relationship resources
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