Why Focusing On Your Need For Money Will Reinforce Your Neediness
Author: David Hurley
Have you ever thought about how your "need" for money could
be the biggest obstacle preventing you from getting the
money you "need"? Getting past this problem is a key
"success secret" that should be a part of every success
mentoring program.
One of the reasons why it is unhelpful to focus on the
thought that you "need money" is because it is likely to
cause you to lower your horizons and grab the first offer
that comes your way.
If you are in a situation where you feel that you really do
"need the money", what would happen if you didn't get it?
When you come up with an answer, ask yourself what would
you do next... Even if you did not get the money you
"needed" there could well be other opportunities out there
that prove to be much better - because no single
opportunity is the be all and end all of a situation.
Here's another question: How long could you live without
this money before you'd have to go and live on the streets?
I know of someone who thought he "needed money" but, when
he did this exercise, he discovered that he could probably
survive for ten years before turning himself out to the
mercy of the streets.
Working with a success mentoring coach, he decided to
concentrate on building his business on the assumption that
he had enough money to live.
Now, instead of focusing on his "neediness" and his fear of
poverty, he based all of his decisions on his vision of the
future and his desire for success.
And, guess what... in less than a year he was making TEN
TIMES more money than he had been doing when focusing on
his fears and his perceptions of neediness.
You might think that this person was a lot less needy than
you are and so it was much easier for him.
Well, if that is what you are determined to believe, so be
it.
Nevertheless, his experience does illustrate a very
interesting fact.
When you let go of neediness and start acting on what you
desire from the point of view of who you aspire to be, you
are no longer working out of desperation, but out of
inspiration.
As I said earlier, a sense of neediness will cause you to
settle for the first thing that comes your way. Focusing on
negatives reinforces them in your life and tip the balance
of favour against you.
But when you act as if you already have plenty of money and
are assured that you will have more, you will find yourself
moving forward with the assurance of a sleepwalker.
You then make decisions not only without fear, but with
joyfulness, and you can ask for what you want and making
your vision plain without fear of loss.
Sadly, most of us have been conditioned to be motivated by
fear and worry. Unfortunately, fear is a terribly
ineffective state within which to make decisions.
What is fear?
Fear is a belief in our inadequacy to deal with something.*
When you are in a state of fear you shrink and suffer a
loss of inspiration and a narrowing of vision. You become
desperate, and your desperation conveys a negative message
to other people who now avoid dealing with you.
But when you operate in a state of self belief, courage,
optimism and benevolence for others, you radiate ease and
well-being. Your creativity grows. You become more open to
opportunities around you and others are drawn to you and
eager to do business with you.
*Source: Harry Palmer, Living Deliberately, p. 84
About the Author:
David Hurley is affiliated with Success University and
writes articles on success mentoring and Internet marketing
start-up techniques. If you enjoyed reading this article
you might like to subscribe to David's free newsletter,
available at ==> http://grasp-the-nettle.com <==
Author: David Hurley
Have you ever thought about how your "need" for money could
be the biggest obstacle preventing you from getting the
money you "need"? Getting past this problem is a key
"success secret" that should be a part of every success
mentoring program.
One of the reasons why it is unhelpful to focus on the
thought that you "need money" is because it is likely to
cause you to lower your horizons and grab the first offer
that comes your way.
If you are in a situation where you feel that you really do
"need the money", what would happen if you didn't get it?
When you come up with an answer, ask yourself what would
you do next... Even if you did not get the money you
"needed" there could well be other opportunities out there
that prove to be much better - because no single
opportunity is the be all and end all of a situation.
Here's another question: How long could you live without
this money before you'd have to go and live on the streets?
I know of someone who thought he "needed money" but, when
he did this exercise, he discovered that he could probably
survive for ten years before turning himself out to the
mercy of the streets.
Working with a success mentoring coach, he decided to
concentrate on building his business on the assumption that
he had enough money to live.
Now, instead of focusing on his "neediness" and his fear of
poverty, he based all of his decisions on his vision of the
future and his desire for success.
And, guess what... in less than a year he was making TEN
TIMES more money than he had been doing when focusing on
his fears and his perceptions of neediness.
You might think that this person was a lot less needy than
you are and so it was much easier for him.
Well, if that is what you are determined to believe, so be
it.
Nevertheless, his experience does illustrate a very
interesting fact.
When you let go of neediness and start acting on what you
desire from the point of view of who you aspire to be, you
are no longer working out of desperation, but out of
inspiration.
As I said earlier, a sense of neediness will cause you to
settle for the first thing that comes your way. Focusing on
negatives reinforces them in your life and tip the balance
of favour against you.
But when you act as if you already have plenty of money and
are assured that you will have more, you will find yourself
moving forward with the assurance of a sleepwalker.
You then make decisions not only without fear, but with
joyfulness, and you can ask for what you want and making
your vision plain without fear of loss.
Sadly, most of us have been conditioned to be motivated by
fear and worry. Unfortunately, fear is a terribly
ineffective state within which to make decisions.
What is fear?
Fear is a belief in our inadequacy to deal with something.*
When you are in a state of fear you shrink and suffer a
loss of inspiration and a narrowing of vision. You become
desperate, and your desperation conveys a negative message
to other people who now avoid dealing with you.
But when you operate in a state of self belief, courage,
optimism and benevolence for others, you radiate ease and
well-being. Your creativity grows. You become more open to
opportunities around you and others are drawn to you and
eager to do business with you.
*Source: Harry Palmer, Living Deliberately, p. 84
About the Author:
David Hurley is affiliated with Success University and
writes articles on success mentoring and Internet marketing
start-up techniques. If you enjoyed reading this article
you might like to subscribe to David's free newsletter,
available at ==> http://grasp-the-nettle.com <==
