Sex and the Marriage Relationship
Author: Kari Hoopes

Oprah looked astonished and surprised as she listened to
one her guests tell about how she and her husband have sex
every single night, almost without exception. I caught a
few moments of this show one day while folding laundry or
doing some household tasks and it really grabbed my
attention, as it would any married woman. The guest on
Oprah's show continued to say how much the simple act of
having sex every night with her husband has changed their
married lives; in many different aspects. The couple, who
has children, expressed how much happier they are in their
daily lives, how the couples communication is so much
stronger, and how their entire household is a happier place
to be. How is it that just having sex on a regular basis
can accomplish this sort of outcome? Is it more to sex than
simple pleasure?

The act of sex between a married couple has many depths
witch complexly affect their relationship and those
directly around them. Once you are in a committed and long
term relationship like marriage, sex becomes an invaluable
tool for stabilizing, strengthening, and putting deep
intimacy into your everyday marriage.

The woman on Oprah claimed having sex with her husband on a
daily basis has strengthened their relationship as a
couple. She said she and her husband did not have sex
regularly for many years and that their relationship was
not as intimate or as selfless as she would have liked. She
and her husband were regularly on edge, which also meant
their children were not as happy as they could be. One day
she decided that something selfless she could do to create
greater intimacy in their marriage was to start having sex
every night with her husband. Wow! The results were
amazing. After a few weeks she really started to see a
difference in almost every aspect of their marriage. They
suddenly communicated better, they were more fun-loving
toward each other during the day, and the children were
happier because they saw Mom and Dad were happier.

Now, sex does not replace in any way direct efforts and
selfless acts of kindness in a marriage relationship. Every
marriage demands daily work and sex is not a replacement
for these efforts. However, is does, in a healthy marriage,
enhance happiness and enhance the drive to be selfless and
closer everyday and in every way.

Where regular intimacy is taking place between a husband
and wife emotional and physical needs are therefore being
met. When these needs are filled, there is less room for
undesirable feelings like selfishness, spite, or
frustration to creep in. Love is regularly being expressed
in one of the most sacred of ways. This means that both the
husband and wife are regularly sustaining their
attractiveness to one another, their desire to be close and
connect to one another. A Man and a Woman who are daily
being told by each other in such a way that they are
wanted, needed, and cared about has a very strong
foundation in which to build and maintain a healthy
marriage.

In looking at sex and the marriage relationship, maybe sex
is not so simple a thing, but an invaluable tool for
fulfilling basic human emotional needs.


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