The Process Of Change
Author: Kenrick Cleveland

'Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything
new.' --Albert Einstein

Change is hard to define. Some changes, such as significant
weight loss or selling a house in the current market, seem to
take a very long time (or at least that's what it feels like).
Other changes happen instantly, irreversibly, like the loss of a
loved one. Many people are highly uncomfortable with change.
They hold on to things trying to avoid the inevitable. One of my
grandmothers had the same hairstyle for 40 years, lived in the
same house for as long, dressed in a similar manner, had many of
the same friends, went to the same church, and shopped in the
same grocery store. She did not like change. These all gave her
a sense of security. It worked okay for her but she never grew
beyond what she was 40 years prior. Holding on to the old does
not keep us more secure, but for some, the familiarity is more
than enough to compensate for that.

The world is in a constant state of change--weather,
temperature, time, seasons, life, death, rebirth. . .there's
nothing we can do to hold this change back and the most
counterproductive and self defeating thing we can do is work
against change.

Now in my late forties, I am making personal and professional
changes myself. These changes are uncomfortable and scary, but
thrilling at the same time. I am facing this fear and excitement
eagerly. Growth comes from change and I'm all about growth.

We're into the new year now and it's most definitely time to
assess what needs to change in your life. At the beginning of
the year I wrote about resolutions. Resolutions are a nice idea.
I like the clean slate that a new year can bring. But there is
no time table for unexpected change and clean slates can start
any time at all. Life isn't run on a timetable. Things happen
without our consent. Managing this fear is truly the key to a
fulfilling life.

If you're one of the many people with the fear of change, this
is for you, a new start, a chance to stop robbing yourself of
the opportunities available to you with a little risk.

Realize that your resistance to change is entirely emotional.
Emotional resistance can be difficult to overcome, but it can
absolutely be done. Emotions are choices and we have the ability
to choose the fear or we have the chance to accept it and push
past it. Really understanding that our emotions are choices has
been somewhat of a revelation to me. It's given me a huge sense
of relief and freedom over what I choose to feel in life.

We allow ennui to overtake us, a general sense of weariness,
and this requires us to really want to push past it. I heard
someone say the other day, 'I really wish I wanted to quit
smoking.' Is this person going to quit smoking? No way.
Motivation is definitely a huge factor. For some, changing can
come out of a fear of losing something valuable to them (their
life, their family, their job). Others have a fear of the
unknown. These are both valid but regrets are seldom about
things we have tried, and often about the things we were too
afraid to try.

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About The Author: Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn
the business of affluent clients using
http://www.maxpersuasion.com persuasion. He runs public and
private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching
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