10 Warning Signs Of A Bad Relationship About To Fall Apart
Author: Bill Urell
Falling in love is a great feeling and for those who are
lucky enough to find their soul mates, life can be a bed of
roses. However, there are some bad relationships, not all
matches are made in heaven. Some can be good and then turn
into dysfunctional relationships over time.
Oftentimes couples go through what seems like an eternal
rough patch while being oblivious to the signs that their
goog relationship is sliding toward a bad relationship. I
It isn't uncommon for people to hang on to what seems like
a dysfunctional relationship with no future just because
they had a great past. In fact this is quite a common
phenomenon because we usually don't notice the negative
qualities of an individual during the initial "romantic
stage" of a relationship.
If you are going through a hard time in your relationship
but don't know whether you should call it quits or not,
here are the top ten telltale signs to let you know that
you should:
1. You seem to be always frustrated about your
relationship. For instance, you feel your emotional needs
are never being met.
2. You find yourself looking for excuses to avoid spending
time together
3. You are being abused physically.
4. You are being abused emotionally.
5. The strong feelings you used to have for your partner
are now a thing of the past and you no longer feel such
intense emotions for them, instead you reminisce about how
you felt for them during better times.
6. You've compromised and sacrificed your beliefs,
ambitions and core values in order to adjust to your
partner's needs, with the hope of eliminating the problems
of your relationship.
7. You've completely and radically changed your appearance
hoping that your partner will find you more attractive.
8. You feel like an empty shell of your former self and
have lost all of your self belief.
9. You've distanced yourself or totally disconnected from
former close friends and/ or family members to accommodate
your partner in your life.
10. You feel like your partner doesn't appreciate anything
you do or have achieved in life and is trying to undermine
you every step of the way.
If you observe these signs in your relationship, then you
should know that it's high time to reevaluate where your
relationship is headed. Perhaps the most practical way of
doing this would be to make a list with two columns. Use
one column to list the positive traits of your relationship
and jot down the negative attributes of your relationship
in the other. Take the time to come up with a concrete list
in both columns. Once you are done with the list, see which
column is longer in order to ascertain whether the odds are
stacked against the survival of your relationship or
there's hope for you and your partner yet. Doing so allows
you to look at the whole situation objectively thereby
making it less hard for you to put an end to the
relationship.
Thus, to conclude, remember that a relationship is supposed
to bring joy and security to your life and not make an
emotional wreck out of you. So, if you see all of the signs
discussed in this article, it's best to quit while you're
ahead.
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