Are you in a funk?
Author: Melisa Milonas
Life tends to be up and down. One moment you are going
along, everything is falling into place and then all the
sudden things stop and you fall into a funk. People always
find being in a funk a discouraging place to be. Funks are
associated with being in a bad or negative spot.
Generally speaking funk means a downtime when you do not
feel as motivated, lucky, connected, happy, active, or
productive. This down period is just a normal life phase
but you give it meaning that is "bad" or "negative".
Funks are not bad and or less than active periods.
However, since you give downtimes a negative meaning you
see it as an undesirable place. Funks are periods of time
that function to clear out old stuff to make room for new.
The problem is you do not see the importance in these
periods and have an aversion to downtime.
Many people share with me that they feel less connected to
their source during downtimes. What they do not realize is
that they are just as connected to their source as they are
during active periods the only difference is their
perception and context has shifted. Source does not take a
vacation from being present in your life.
It boils down to this you create the context for how you
view things in your life. Here is an example, last week I
returned from a 12 day trip. The day after I returned I
caught the flu. I could have easily said to myself "this
is horrible I have so many things to do and I do not have
time to be sick". But instead I knew getting the flu was
necessary for me. I had worked on a lot of deep rooted
issues and the flu was how this stuff needed to come out.
It was a downtime that was necessary for my growth.
In the past I would have been so upset that I was not able
to get things done. I would have resisted being sick
because I used to view sickness as an undesirable place to
be. What is even more ironic about this pattern is when I
was really busy I would crave for downtime. Then when I
would get it I would feel so lazy and unproductive so I
would crave being busy again. Many people operate like
this resisting or craving never accepting what is.
Your resistance compounded with your view of downtime
causes your unpleasant feelings. Your thoughts lead to
your feelings which lead to your actions. So you end up
doing things that fulfill your perception that things are
going "bad". Actions like overeat, sleep late, and not
exercise which perpetuates the negative feelings. You feel
worse but you keep attributing your feelings to the down
period not your behaviors.
These undesirable feelings cause you to crave for an active
period where you feel energized, good, and motivated.
Again this only makes you feel worse because you are
clinging to your past and future resisting what is.
Nothing lasts in life, everything is always changing.
Inactive periods do not last forever they always pass.
Active periods function the same way, they come and they
go. It is better to be in the present, roll with whatever
period you are in and do not crave or resist what is
happening.
Realize that downtime periods provide you with an
opportunity to soak in what you have been learning. They
are a time when you should listen and look for messages
from the universe. When you are active you are too busy to
notice what needs to be cleared out. Down periods give you
the precious time you need to assess your life and plan for
make necessary changes.
During a downtime period reflect on what you have been
doing, where you want to go in your life, and how to
prepare yourself for the next active phase. Clear out your
mind body and soul so that is open to the new and grow.
When you are up to big things in life new things constantly
arise and you do not require much time in down periods.
The more you grow yourself the shorter the low periods
become and you do not go as low. I would recommend that
you keep your attention focused on growing yourself. How
can you create a life where you go to bed different than
how you woke up? This is the key to peace and happiness in
your life no matter what shows up even if it seems
undesirable to you.
A funk is not a negative bad place to be in so let go of
your old negative belief system around it. Accept that
what you call a funk is just a down period that is
necessary for your success and happiness in life.
Your assignment for this week: Do not resist where you are
right now. If you are in an active period do not crave
more activity just stay present to what is. If you are in
a down inactive period do not resist it or have aversion to
how you feel or what is and is not happening. Look for
messages from the universe and see what there is for you to
learn.
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