Make Time For Alone Time
Author: Kaled Asmri

"Alone time" has become something of a catchword in today's
culture—something like "personal space." Today's individuals,
often warn down by too much company, too many crowds, and too
much noise, need their personal space and their personal time,
their "alone time." Even the people who deeply love each other
may need a few days apart every once in awhile, to return to
themselves, before they can return to the ones they love.

When someone asks for some alone time, our first reaction may
be to call them a jerk. But, to be fair, we all need alone time.
That's not just a throw-away statement, it's scientific fact.
Psychologically, humans have a need for privacy; too much
society, over time, can grate on a person's nerves, make them
irritable, make them, so to speak, "not themselves." Only after
a period of retreat can they rediscover themselves; and only
when they find themselves can they find the people closest to
them.

Alone time is important for anyone, of any age and any walk of
life. Spending some time in solitude can be a valuable
opportunity to take stock of one's life, to reevaluate one's
priorities, and look at things from a broader perspective. Funny
how "alone time" is often used as a punishment for rambunctious
children, when, for adults, it's often viewed as a real reward!
Remember how we all hated nap time as children? Now we'd give
anything for a nap during work! As we mature, alone time becomes
a crucial element of our lives.

At the same time, human beings are social creatures. This is a
fact of our genetic programming. Anyone who spends too much time
alone, or who is downright frightened by the idea of venturing
out into society, or who fails to establish any meaningful human
contact, might have cause for concern. Ironically, too much
solitude can produce the same levels of stress as too much
social interaction. Obviously, moderation is called for here—a
healthy balance between one's social life and private life. No
one wants to feel lonely, and if we have too much alone time,
feelings of isolation can take over. These feelings can produce
chemical imbalances in the body that are actually physically
unhealthy. This can disrupt sleep and even lead to heart
trouble.

Solitude can be a painful experience. If you've ever been on
the outside looking in, you know that hurtful feeling all too
well. Scientists have demonstrated that the feeling of being
excluded from society is closely related to the feeling of
actual bodily pain.

So, while seeking our own council during alone time is
important, having people who are close to us to turn to for
advice is also a crucial element in our own wellbeing, both
spiritually and physically. The experiences of those around us
can prove invaluable whenever we come to an impasse in our own
lives. Changes are, some of them have been through similarly
trying circumstances in their day. Tossing ideas and possible
solutions around with trusted friends or colleagues can be a
tremendous help in times of trouble.

So, strike a balance; as with all things in life, seek out the
golden mean. Combine alone time with social time; seek your own
counsel, and the counsel of others. Retreat into yourself, then
return to society.


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