The Best Love Making Techniques
Author: Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.

The best love making techniques are not what you think they would be.
Nope, sorry it's not some wild, kinky  or unusual method that I just
discovered in a lost ancient Tibetan lovemaking manual that's never
been revealed.  It's really very simple and basic.

- Get to know what pleases your lover.
- Tune into your lover's needs.
- Know what it is that arouses and pleases you.
- Deepen intimacy.

That's all there is to it. No technique, method, position or tip is
inherently best in and of itself.  It is the dynamics of the couple
involved, their level of awareness and the depth of their intimacy
that impacts this determination the most.

You could read every love making manual in existence and become a
master of all love making techniques, but they are irrelevant if you
don't first know where you are going, who you're going with, what you
want to happen and how to get there.

Yes, you can probably bestow at least some pleasure on your partner
and yourself with any old technique, but the goal in love making is to
satisfy our lover and ourselves as deeply and completely as possible.
We want to achieve ultimate fulfillment and enhance the relationship.

There are many different love making techniques to choose from, but if
you don't have awareness of you and your lover's intricate
preferences, then you're just taking a shot in the dark and settling
for mediocre pleasure.  What works for one person is not what works
for another person.  Men and women usually have different preferences.

If you're in a new relationship with a new lover and you use the love
making techniques that you're old girlfriend or boyfriend just loved,
you could be in for disappointment.  Men share a little more
similarities in their needs, but women especially have very unique
sexual needs  What drives one woman mad with desire, could drive
another woman just plain mad.

What positions does your lover enjoy? What part of their body is most
erogenous? Are they a silent lover or the verbal type? Where does your
lover need to touched?  What activities do they enjoy the most?  What
makes their motor run like speed racer? Which type of sex do they
prefer the most?  What do they dislike the most? When and how do they
like to be touched?

Of course, you don't want to ignore your pleasure or desires either.
You'll want to take your answers to those questions into account as
well as a few others. What are you in the mood for during this
particular love making session?  Would you like something tender,
loving and romantic or are you feeling wild, kinky and animalistic.


How do you get to know your lovers needs and what makes them aroused?

1. You ask.

Many couples have difficulty communicating what it is they enjoy and
need sexually.  Encourage your partner to share their needs and
preferences with you.  Let them know it's important to you to pleasure
them.  Ask them straight out -  does this feel good? - what do you
need? - do you like this? - where do you need touched?  Share your
needs and preferences with them as well.

2. Pay attention while making love.

How do they breathe? How do they respond to each touch and act.  What
are they saying?  What noises are they making?  You can learn a great
deal about your lover by simply paying attention to these details.
Read their cues and adjust accordingly.

When you engage in the two practices above, intimacy naturally ensues.
Once you know what it is that you and your lover need for the deepest
pleasure then you will discover a variety of best love making
techniques.  What is best for one couple may not be the case for
another.  It depends on the unique needs of each couple.

When you and your partner have deep awareness of what it is that you
both need and desire, then any technique you use can become the best
love making technique.  You'll have the benefit of more pleasurable
lovemaking, a more satisfying relationship, deeper intimacy and you'll
be viewed as a great lover.


Cynthia Perkins,M.Ed.,is a sex educator helping couples improve their
sex life.  She is also author of the hot sex guides for couples "The
Lovemaking Smorgasbord and "Smoldering Embers."  Visit her newest site
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