Parent Fatigue Syndrome - What it Looks Like and How to Overcome It
Author: Terre Grable

Parent Fatigue Syndrome - What it Looks Like and How to Overcome It
"At work, you think of the children you have left at home.
At home, you think of the work you've left unfinished. Such
a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is
rent."   – Golda Meir

On  any given day of the week do you feel like you are in
a) battle zone, b) the twilight zone, c) the Crazy zone, or
d) all the above?

Do you have so many things coming at you that you feel like
a walking dart board?

Does your mind often feel scattered and asking "Is this
what I signed up for?"

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, then I'd
take a guess you are a parent. Parenting can not only be
time consuming, but exhausting physically, emotionally, and
spiritually.  It is what I call Parent Fatigue Syndrome.
Even the most seasoned parents will experience PFS from
time to time.  The solution is recognizing its severity and
knowing what to do about it.

Mild Parent Fatigue Syndrome

For most parents, the feelings of PFS will begin on Friday
afternoon, usually the drive home from work.  It has been a
long week, you are feeling tired.  You wish you had some
time to yourself.   There may be some family obligations
you have to attend, but you are still looking forward to
spending time with your children because you know the
outcome will be relaxing and refreshing.

What to do:  Have some "down time" with your family.  Order
pizza and rent a movie.  Play some games.   Chances are
your family needs some down time also.

Moderate Parent Fatigue Syndrome

Parents experiencing moderate symptoms will have more
intense feelings of frustration or even anxiety.  Sometimes
these feelings may start earlier in the week.  After work
you just want to go home, eat and have some alone time.
You can still muster up some time to spend with your
children, but it can feel like a chore.  You may begin to
find other reasons not to be at home: working late,
spending more time on hobbies or holing up in your room
watching TV.

What to do:  Begin to carve out some alone time for
yourself.  Communicate to your spouse about your feelings.
He/she may not even be aware that you are experiencing
these feelings.  Change your perspective:  At lunch time,
write down everything you like about each of your children.
Then when you get home, tell them your feelings.

Severe Parent Fatigue Syndrome

Parents with severe symptoms of PFS will have been
experiencing stronger emotions for a greater period of
time.  Their feelings of frustration have grown into
resentment, depression or even apathy.  They have lost
their joy of spending time with their children.    Or they
may also say things they don't mean at the expense of their
children.

What to do:  If you are experiencing these symptoms, then I
encourage you to find a professional counselor to talk to
about these feelings.  If left unchecked, it may have
negative consequences to the relationship you have with
your children and other family relationships.

Parent Fatigue Syndrome is common to every parent.  Yet,
the important thing is to respond to our feelings so that
our parenting relationship remains intact, and is fun.


About the Author:

Are you looking for more common sense parenting solutions?
Then I invite you to check out
http://www.parentingyourteenager.com/ where you will find
more innovative solutions on parenting your teen, school,
curfew and more! Terre Grable is a licensed professional
counselor.  She enjoys helping parents and teens become
better friends when they feel like enemies.