She is a Perfectionist
Author: Robert Elias Najemy


Marina's perfectionism annoys her husband, Dan.

Marina cannot relax if whatever she does is not perfect. Of
course, nothing is ever perfect and thus Marina is usually
in a very tense state. This attachment creates for her
anxiety, fear, and a continual sense of danger.

This tension is transferred to her husband, Dan, who cannot
understand why it takes Marina so long to do something, and
why is it so important for her to do it over and over. He
believes she is wasting her life away on details and losing
the essence.

She, on the other hand, is usually angry with him because
he does pay enough attention to details, which are
important to her, especially when it pertains to order and
cleanliness.

He feels suppressed by her constant nagging and is annoyed
by her habitual tardiness. She is angry with him because he
does not help her, and he is in angry with her because she
is causing him to waste time in details that are not
important.


What could they need to learn in order to create happiness
and harmony?

Marina:
Could she need to learn some of the following lessons:

That her worth as a person is not dependent upon the
results of her efforts or what others think about her?

That she is not more lovable because she has done more, or
done it more perfectly?

To accept herself exactly as she is?

To accept and love others exactly as they are? To realize
that the results of any endeavor are produced by many
factors, one of which is her effort?

To offer all the results up to the Divine?

To discontinue measuring herself in comparison to others?

To make time for relaxation and reflection in her life?

To free herself from past experiences that may have
programmed these feelings within her?

To see herself and all others as immortal souls in the
process of evolution who are learning through every
experience?

Dan:
Could he need to learn some of the following lessons:

To understand Marina's needs and help her satisfy them?

To help her get free from her needs?

To express clearly what he can do and what he cannot?

To express his needs and feelings without accusing Marina?


To pay more attention to details?

To go about with his program and not wait for Marina when
she is late?

To accept and love her as she is?

With self-analysis and love, they can work this out.

Robert E. Najemy, author of 25 books and life coach with 30
years of experience, has trained over 300 life coaches and
now does so over the Internet.
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