Consciously Choosing A Positive Attitude
Author: Wendy Betterini

Do you consciously choose your attitude each day? If you're
like most people, probably not. Most of us tend to let our
circumstances choose our attitude for us. We're in a good mood
as long as we get up on time, the kids cooperate and get to
school on time, the car starts without a problem, we don't
encounter any traffic jams on the way to work, the boss doesn't
yell, our workload is manageable, etc. This system can work fine
as long as everything runs smoothly in our lives.

But that's not always the case, is it? Situations don't always
adhere to our expectations. Accidents happen. Delays happen.
Spouses and bosses can be difficult to please. Vehicles break
down. Kids may resist our efforts to keep the schedule running
smoothly. What happens to our attitude then? If we don't make
the effort to consciously choose a positive attitude, we run
the risk of developing a negative one at random.

How would our lives change if we consciously chose a positive
attitude each day? For starters, we'd feel much happier about
our lives. We'd feel more motivated about pursuing our dreams
because we'd believe in the possibilities for making them a
reality. We'd be able to enjoy the time spent with our friends
and families more, because we'd want to share our joy with
others. We'd feel strong and empowered in our ability to do
anything we set our minds to. We'd be able to overcome
challenges with ease because we'd have a strong belief in our
own skills and abilities. We'd be able to love deeply and
completely without fear of rejection or betrayal. We would
pause to enjoy the smaller, more precious moments in life,
without feeling pressured to do more, be more, or prove our
worthiness.

Wow, it sounds awesome, doesn't it? Is it really possible to
feel that way all the time? Yes, but probably not in the way
you're imagining it. Just because we choose a positive attitude
doesn't mean that our lives will transform into smoothly-flowing
works of art and stay that way forever. Choosing a positive
attitude is a process. We don't just choose it once and expect
everything to be perfect from that moment on. We will still
experience setbacks, delays, accidents, frustrations,
arguments, fatigue, and fear. The secret is how we choose to
react to these experiences. Do we want to let them ruin our
day, or do we choose to pick ourselves up and look hopefully to
the future again? We do have the power to choose.

You may be asking what the point of a positive attitude is. If
we'll still experience negative circumstances, why bother with
choosing a positive attitude? Ah, that's the true beauty of the
creative process. What we choose to focus on the most, we create
in our lives.

By choosing a positive attitude each day, we are actually
attracting more positive experiences, and reducing the
likelihood of negative experiences. You may have noticed that
each experience often determines the quality of the next
experience, causing a chain reaction in our lives. If one
little thing goes wrong, it can throw off our plans for the
rest of the day. In this context, it's easy to see how a
positive attitude would be powerful. Rather than allowing one
little thing to ruin our day, we would be able to shrug it off
and continue on without a hitch.

Over time, this resiliency begins to strengthen and empower us,
which will show through in our demeanor. We begin attracting
people and experiences that more closely match our attitude,
and our lives eventually transform into more positive,
fulfilling expressions of joy.

And it all begins with a little thing called attitude! Again,
this is a process, so go easy on yourself if you're trying to
adopt a more positive attitude. Simply focus on developing a
stronger awareness of your attitude moment to moment in your
daily experiences, and begin choosing a more positive one more
often. It takes time to realize the full benefits of this type
of mindset, but it is time well-spent.

Before you know it, you'll be one of those people you used to
admire for their tenacity and strength, and your life will
transform in amazing ways.


About The Author: Wendy Betterini is a freelance writer who
strives to motivate, uplift, and inspire you to make your
dreams a reality. Visit her website,
http://www.WingsForTheHeart.com for more positive thoughts to
help you on your journey.