Cheating Signs: How People Get Away With
Infidelity
Author: Drew Bryant

I'm not going to waste any time here. So here it goes. One
word. MANIPULATION.

One of the biggest mistakes people make when they think they're
being cheated on is allowing themselves to be manipulated. This
is where you start to think that you're being cheated on, but
your better half convinces you that you're not. What you need
to know is that men and women manipulate differently.

Women manipulate men physically. They do this by using their
bodies (think SEX here). A woman can pretty much get a man to
think or do whatever they want by offering sex, or at least
physical contact. For example, if you're a man and your woman
starts to think that you're "catching on" to what she's doing
behind your back, she'll offer herself physically as a method
of changing your mind. Maybe she'll have sex with you. Maybe
she will just let you put your arm around her. Maybe she'll
just let you touch her while she's sitting next to you on the
couch watching TV. In any event, she'll offer you some sort of
physical interaction that will make you think "gee, maybe she
isn't cheating on me". If you're a man, remember this....women
control almost all physical encounters. After all, if a woman
says "NO", it's rape.

The same rules don't apply to men. Now on the other side of the
coin, men will manipulate by EMOTION. A man can get a woman to
think or do whatever he wants by pretty much just saying what
she wants to hear (or doing some little romantic trick like
sending flowers). A man can sweep a woman off her feet with
just words. A simple "I love you" or "you're everything I've
ever wanted and more" can emotionally melt most women.

So these are the things you need to watch out for. If you think
your lover is cheating on you, and then all of a sudden they do
something "to make everything alright", you my friend have just
been manipulated. I know of men (who's wives or girlfriends were
cheating on them) who bought expensive jewelry for their woman
just because of some type of physical contact. I know of women
(who's husbands or boyfriends were cheating on them) who
dropped the whole notion of infidelity just because of
receiving flowers or getting a loving message left on their
answering machine. You need to be completely aware of
manipulation like this in your relationship. If you've been
emotionally abused or physically neglected for a time, and then
all of a sudden something changes that makes you happy and
relieved, odd's are you're being manipulated. Some women call
this a "mercy ...". Some men call this "throwing her off the
trail". In any event, you're letting your NEEDS open the door
for your lover to keep cheating on you, undetected.

Manipulation is a very important key to look out for. If you're
"starving" for something in your relationship and then all of a
sudden you get "fed", well, there's a reason for that. And that
reason is that your lover may be thinking you're "on to them".
Manipulation is the FIRST thing they'll use to shut you up.
Watch out for it and don't fall for it! Remember what was said
here!


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