Are you proned to Holiday dread?

The holidays are upon us, have you made any plans? I get emails every year at
this time from women, and yes a few men, who are absolutely miserable and
want help in dealing with their feelings.

They tend to be miserable because of two reasons. Firstly they have too much
time on their hands to think about what they consider their shortcomings be it
physical, emotional, financial, social, you name it. Secondly, they usually
lack family or loved ones inwhich to share the holidays and would like very
much not to be alone. So those who are dreading this time of year and truly want
this year to be different make some plans.

I suggest this all the time but here goes. Volunteer with food pantries, toy
drives, homeless shelters, grocery delivery to the invalid, or be anywhere you
can mingle with others in equal spirits for a few hours for a common good.
Too tired to volunteer then here's another suggestion.

Attend or plan Quick Mixers.

If you're slightly outgoing this may be the thing for you to do. Reserve some
space at your local library, YWCA (YMCA), church, local school (after hours
of course), even the washateria. Place an ad in the neighborhood newspaper,
print up flyers on your computer, or invite through word of mouth
people who feel
as you do during this time of the season to a Quick Mixer.

A Quick Mixer is a way for people to meet other people. It's not just for
finding romance but can be used to make new friends, it's also a way to not be
alone when you don't want to be alone. Serving food and drinks are optional and
not necessary. Remember you're wanting to meet others not to pig out. Don't
hesitate in scheduling Quick Mixers throughout the months of November and
December. Most of the places I mentioned above would be more than happy to
accommodate you for free or a minimum fee. Be imaginative but keep
safety in mind when
planning these events.

The object is to do something constructive and fun. No more wallowing in
those dreadful feelings if you're prone to them during the extended
holiday season
by having activities mapped out. Now lets enjoy ourselves!

(c)Regena English, the editor of The Leather Spinsters Newsletter for happily
unmarried careerwomen http://www.leatherspinsters.com/ and ActiveWear for
Single Women Clothing http://www.activewearforsinglewomen.com/ .