Why Men Want Sex and Women Want Love
Elena Solomon

Men are frustrated with women because they never want sex.
Women are frustrated with men because they always want sex.

Women blame men they don't know how to love.
Men blame women that they only talk about love but don't want to
make it.

Whether you are a man or a woman, reading this article can change
your life - finally, you will be able to get rid of your
frustrations about the opposite gender.

The reason humans want sex is due to the hormone testosterone,
which is predominantly male hormone. A normal male's body
produces 20 times more of this hormone than a female's.

In other words, a male feels the same way after one day without
sex as a female after 20 days without sex. A male that has not
had sex in 20 days feels the same way as a female after more than
a year without sex.

Knowing this simple difference, you can already understand the
pain of the opposite gender. It's NOT their fault: they are made
this way! It's in our genes! This is the reason why men are men
and women are women.

Men and women are DIFFERENT. Not better or worse, just different.

A man can father a child every time he has sex, and a woman can
only mother a child every two years or so. This means, a woman
HAS TO be picky about who she allows to have sex with her.

For generations women were paying too high a price for making a
wrong choice. Women that have chosen men with bad genes had a
weaker offspring and their children struggled to survive. Women
that have chosen men with good genes had a stronger offspring and
their children survived disproportionally. Those children were
carrying their picky mother's genes and this is why those female
genes were passed to us.

On the other hand, men never had adverse consequences of making a
wrong choice. The more children they produced, the higher was
their chance to pass their genes to future generations, as some
of them would certainly survive. While men were determined to
seek better genes too, they had to grab all chances to procreate
coming their way to ensure their genes would be passed forward.
The men that ONLY stuck with one woman (even a high quality
woman) were losing genetically to the men that used all of their
opportunities and had many more children that survived. Those
children were carrying their father's promiscuous genes, and this
is why those male genes were passed to us.

By Nature men are made to seek as much sex as they can get, so
they can spread their seed wider.

By Nature women are made to seek as many admirers as they can
get, so they can make a better choice and get the best seed.

Men seek quantity - women seek quality.

This is why men seek sex and women seek love.

Love is the proof that a woman needs to have some assurance that
the man will stick around and help her with the upbringing of the
offspring. For a woman, sex is the culmination of her emotional
commitment to a man.

For a man, sex is a physical act that eases the testosterone
pressure he experiences constantly. Only after this tension has
gone, can a man feel love towards a woman. This is why it often
happens that men disappear after they got what they wanted: it
wasn't love; it was the testosterone pressure. Sex for men is the
reality check of their passion.

This is why having sex early in the relationship is hazardous for
women: the man has not had the time to develop any romantic
feelings for her. He needs time to develop those feelings, and
the only way to do it is through keeping the sexual tension going
for as long as practicable. Sex must be attainable, nearly
possible - but not quite. When the sexual tension is at its peak,
its release is mind-blowing - and once is never enough, which
lays a proper foundation for a future relationship - and love.

Men fall in love through sex; women fall in sex through love.

All of this happens on the unconscious level - we do NOT realize
what's going on.

But the reason why you are here today and alive is because each
and every of your ancestors, men and women, acted true to their
instincts and managed to attract at least one sexual partner and
produce an offspring.

So, there is no need to be bitter about men wanting sex and women
wanting love. Those two are the necessary pieces of the puzzle
called Survival Of The Species.

And you'll be better off understanding what the other gender is
going through and giving them exactly what they want: a mind-
blowing sex or exhilarating love.

Go get 'em! :-)



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Elena Solomon is the dating coach of
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