What Are The Signs of An Addictive Relationship?
Author: Bill Urell

An addictive relationship is not a pleasent thing to deal
with, though millions of people are in bad relationships
that are no good for them. Unhealthy relationships lead to
abuse, drug use, depression, and to people's lives being in
a  very negative place. Addictive relationships can be hard
to define, and therefore it can be hard to tell if you are
in one. However, a bad relationship is something to take
seriously, and if you can figure out that you are in one,
you are one step closer to getting out of it so that you
can get into a good relationship.

An addictive relationship is one that cuts a person (or
both people) off from the rest of their lives. It is the
exact same thing as a drug dependence  something that keeps
them away from the things that they love and the other
things that they should be doing. An addictive relationship
is truly a dysfunctional relationship because it is defined
by an increasing craving to be with a person, and by
withdrawal symptoms that go along with being away from
them. It also has the some of the same signs as other
addictions, such as low self-esteem, passivity, magical
thinking, lack of initiative, and helplessness.

There are seven things that you can see in an addictive
relationship. If you find that your relationship has these
things or any number of them, chances are good that you are
in a bad relationship, and should consider getting out of
it.

1. If you feel that you are magnetically drawn to another
person, even if the person is not good for you, it might be
a dysfunctional relationship. This might include a person
that is too far away, married, not interested, or
emotionally unavailable. If these things are true about
your partner, yet you feel like you are drawn to them, it
could be an addictive relationship.

2. If you try to change the person that you are with in
order to be a person that you'd like to be with, this is
not a good relationship to be in. If you find yourself
constantly thinking that the relationship would be perfect
if the person could just change a little bit, it is a sign
of a bad relationship.

3. If know that the relationships is bad for you, but you
are not able to break it off, this is a sign of an
addictive relationship. Perhaps you feel like you don't
deserve a good relationship ,and perhaps you are consumed
by thinking of what will happen to the other person if you
break up with them. Either way, these are signs of a
negative relationship.

4. If you see kind and available people outside of your
relationship, and think that it might be boring, it is a
sign that you are in an addictive relationship. Chances are
that you would reject these people, in favor of the
relationship that you are in.

5. If you don't feel that you can be independent within
your relationship, even though you might be independent in
other areas, it might be a sign of an addictive
relationship.

6. If you cannot say no to the person that you are involved
with, and you find yourself doing what they say and putting
their needs above your own, this is the sign of an
addictive relationship.

7. If your relationship makes you feel self-doubt, it is a
sign that your relationship is dysfunctional.

If you find that you are in an addictive relationship, the
best thing to do is to get out of the relationship.
However, seek help from family and friends, and even
professionals, so that you can avoid going back to the
person, and so that you can learn how to appreciate
yourself long enough to find a successful and good
relationship.


About the Author:

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