Never again say: "I had no choice. I had to do it."
Author: Jennifer T. Grainger


If You Think You Have No Choice — You Are Mistaken!

In all the years I have been helping people grow
spiritually and expand their consciousness, it still causes
me a twinge of distress to hear someone say "I had no
choice. I had to do to it."

I remember what it was like for me (many years ago) when I
used to feel forced to choose between two undesirable
options. Oh how I would suffer — feeling trapped,
oppressed or stuck, while I tried to decide which was the
lesser of "two evils."

If you have ever felt trapped by a life situation, with no
hope of being free, I am here to tell you, there are always
more than two choices in any situation. What you need is
more information to create more options. Here is all you
have to do to create more desirable choices:

1. Refuse to accept an undesirable choice.

2. Believe you can find an acceptable option.

3. Ask yourself "What would be my ideal solution in this
situation?"

4. Brainstorm around the situation.

5. Sleep on it.

Here is how it works . . .

1. By refusing to accept an undesirable choice you are
opening your mind to receive new ideas. You will begin to
see things with a new perspective.

2. By believing that you can find an acceptable option you
are stimulating your thinking brain whose main function is
to solve problems.

3. By asking yourself "What would be my ideal solution?"
your focus is on creating something you want instead of
what you don't want. Perhaps you have heard this phrase,
"you always get what you think about, whether you want it
or not." Use the power of your mind by focusing on what you
want!

4. Brainstorming sets the stage for both sides of your
brain to operate. Don't be a "half-wit" when looking for
options! Brainstorm by writing down every thought that
comes to mind, no matter how ridiculous or impossible it
seems. Brainstorming is a case where "two heads are better
than one" so you might want to have family or friends
brainstorm with you.

5. Sleep on it. Go to sleep asking for ideas and you will
likely wake up with new information.

No matter how impossible it may seem in the beginning to
find an acceptable 3rd option, I have never had a client or
myself fail to find an acceptable alternative to what
started out as "I have no choice."

New options can appear all at once in a light-bulb moment,
but it is more likely that the new options will appear in
fragments, like puzzle pieces, until finally the picture
becomes clear.

Take the time you need to let the process work. Don't be
bullied into making decisions on the spot. Ask yourself,
"what will happen if I delay this decision for a day (or a
week, or whatever)." Usually the answer is "nothing will
happen; this can wait while the puzzle comes together and I
have an acceptable 3rd option."


About the Author:

Jennifer T. Grainger, B.Msc.,Spiritual Growth Coach &
Mentor, Founder of http://www.SpiritualGrowthCommunity.com
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