Let's admit it. Not all of us possess the natural charm of Casablanca.
While there are people out there who seem to have no trouble attracting
the opposite sex and asking people out on dates, there are those who
prefer to stay in the sidelines, wallow in cowardice, and be satisfied
with just watching their romantic prospect from afar.
But this can't go on forever and we know it. Eventually, we will have to
face our insecurities and fears if we are truly bent on getting the man
or woman of our dreams, or even if we want to meet new people at all.
Shyness is safe, but there is never any fun in monotony. You will have
to break out of your shell eventually and find out that romantic
persuasion is not so difficult after all.
So how does a non-romantic convince someone to go out with him or her?
Simple. Don't do it outwardly (or you could end up swallowing your own
tongue).
Instead, try to make friends with the other person. If introducing
yourself is not an option, then seek an opportunity wherein you and your
prospect will have to interact. For instance, when it's raining and you
see him or her seeking shelter under a shed, join him or her and comment
on the weather. This might be a lame example, of course, but you get the
point.
If you already know each other, then you will only have to ask him or
her out to get somewhere. If you have mustered enough courage but do not
want to ask outright, you could send a short note, an email, or an SMS
or chat message. Don't say anything like 'Hey do you want to go out on a
date with me?' if that's really not your thing.
You could start by engaging in small talk about this nice restaurant or
this interesting dish you've been raving about for the past weeks. If
you're convincing enough, it's likely that the other person will feel
intrigued by your topic and invite himself and herself to go with you
next time. If this happens, you're lucky you're already off the hook.
But if it doesn't, well, you could offer to take him or her there the
next time he or she has 'nothing else to do'.
In short, convincing somebody to consider you for a friend or a romantic
partner does not really require mush. Some people are more creative and
conduct scavenger hunts with roses, but that's only for the advanced and
for those who are pretty sure the other person likes them too.
However, if you're still on the 'I don't know' stage, then it's best to
take it slow. Persuasion does not always mean that you should be in a
hurry or coercive. And if it's a romantic prospect you're looking for,
wouldn't you want to start off on the right foot? Best of luck to you!
Michael Lee is the author of http://www.20daypersuasion.com
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