Divorce Recovery Success - 7 Tips for How to Make a Smooth Recovery from Divorce
Author: Jerald Young

Divorce Recovery Success - 7 Tips for How to Make a Smooth Recovery from Divorce
Recovery from divorce is hard. The good news is YOU CAN DO
IT. In fact, with some focused effort and a little help,
you can recover from divorce faster than you ever thought
possible. Making a successful recovery from divorce
requires both insight and action. The following tips
highlight the most important insights and actions necessary.

TIP #1 -  You are not unusual - You are not alone.

Statistically, there are a lot of us. 40% of first
marriages and 60% of all remarriages eventually end in
divorce. Emotionally, everyone is pretty much in the same
boat. Ambivalence rules the day. Roller coasters are the
preferred method of emotional transport. Realistically,
anyone you know whose has gone through, or is going through
a divorce, can identify with the reactions you are having.
You are not alone.

TIP #2 - You can make a successful recovery from divorce
because you have done it before.

You say you haven't been divorced before? Doesn't matter.
All transitions force us to go through the same process of
change - whether it is losing a job, getting married,
starting a family, death of a loved one. Whatever. What
we've learned from these life experiences we can apply to
making it through our current transition through divorce.

TIP #3 - You already possess all the personal resources
necessary to recover from divorce.

Confidence, a sense of direction, and hope seem to be the
first to go when trying to recover from a divorce. But, not
to worry. You already have the ability to deal with it.
More specifically, we gain confidence from successfully
navigating past major life transitions. We find stability
of direction from our unique set of personal principles. We
obtain courage to press on from our personal sources of
hope. And, we obtain reassurance that we are on the right
track through a sense of gratitude for the good present in
the current situation

TIP #4 - You need to recruit at lease one "Change Buddy"
for social support and feedback.

We need to find people (or at least one person) we can lean
on for emotional support and count on for objective
feedback while we make our recovery from divorce. These
folks must have two important characteristics. They must
have no personal agenda and they must be able to be honest
with you. Only then can you count on their feedback as
being objective.

TIP #5 - You can and must dissolve the massive resistance
to change that comes with divorce.

Fear, loss, and uncertainty about what to do next sabotage
our efforts to make a victorious recovery from divorce.
However, we can handle our fear of the unknown future if we
have a plan. We can let go of how things used to be - even
the good stuff - when we realize there is even more good
stuff in the next chapter of our life after divorce. And,
we can resolve our rational reservations for making a
recovery with old-fashioned problem solving.

TIP #6 - You can and must use what you have learned from
going through the divorce process to make your recovery
successful.

Only by using your experience to clarify your future
requirements, needs, and wants for our life after divorce,
can you capitalize on the great opportunity divorce offers.
These learnings apply to your entire life including
finances, health, relationships, and self expression.

TIP #7 - You must lay the groundwork for the many changes
that must occur in order to make a successful divorce
recovery.

Divorce brings change in our relationships, our health, our
financial situation, and our opportunities for creativity
and self expression. A successful divorce recovery demands
that we attend to and plan for this wide range of changes
in order to fully and joyously embrace the next chapter in
our life after divorce.


About the Author:

To learn more about the divorce recovery process and how
you can speed up your return to a "normal" life, go to
http://www.SmoothDivorceRecovery.com  To get a free
assessment of your Divorce Recovery Stress Level go to
http://www.smoothdivorcerecovery.com/stress/index.htm     I
help divorced clients return to the mainstream of life with
renewed hope, unfettered by the chains of anger,
resentment, and shame that accompany divorce.