Contracting with Your Abuser


By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"

How can one negotiate with an abuser without incurring his wrath? What is
the meaning of contracts "signed" with bullies? ...   more »

 Love is a Choice
Author: Robert Elias Najemy


We may not able to choose all the events and situations
that occur in our lives, but we choose how we feel, react
or respond to them....   more »

The Anomaly of Abuse
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"

Important Comment

Most abusers are men. Still, some are women. We use the masculine and
feminine adjectives and pronouns ('he", ...   more »

Ms. Perfect at Work
Author: Robert Elias Najemy

This type of worker has an attachment to a perfect result.
Before going on, let us make a clarification between three
totally different things: First, there is ...   more »

 Robert Elias Najemy


Mark what you believe to be your love partner's needs
(Or the members of the opposite sex's general needs)

1. Love (or greater expression of it)

2. Respect

3. Understanding (of what?) ...   more »

Is This Arrest Valid, Officer Sir?
Author: Hallidae Thomason

First before I confuse you to the point of no return I am
talking about an arrest by a police officer for an alleged
crime. What ...   more »

It's Already Programmed!
Stop trying so hard.

By Sheree Rainbolt-Kren

Just when I thought it was safe to settle things once and
for all.

I have been working on a special project to produce some ...   more »

Making Marriage Work, Part 4
Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

In Part 1 of this series, I described the fears of rejection
and engulfment that underlie relationship problems.

In Part 2 of this 5-part series, I ...   more »