Child Discipline: What Really Works?
Author: Debra Slater
One thing I hate to do is discipline my son. He is such a good
boy most of the time, but when he gets angry he is awful!
Disciplining your child is one of the hardest things to do as a
parent. It is important that they understand that you are in
charge, not them.
I remember getting spankings until I was around 6 or 7 years
old. I did everything I could to avoid making my mother and
father angry. I haven't spanked my son that often, but I have
had to pop him when nothing else would work. Today, parents are
looking for alternative methods of discipline and avoiding the
dreaded spanking.
By the time your baby is 4 years old, you should have already
laid down basic rules, no more than 4 or 5. The most important
part of setting the rules is to stand by them. Go over the
rules with your child whenever they break one. And do not try
to explain yourself to your child. You are the parent, what you
say goes.
Praise your child on any good behavior they demonstrate. This
is reinforce the idea that having good behavior is much better
than bad behavior. We spend alot more time scolding them for
the "bad" things they do than on the "good" things. A simple
"Thank You" is beneficial to your child.
Saying "no" makes a child very angry. It means that they do not
get their way or something they want. Use a firm tone with
authority, not an angry one. Make sure your child understands
that when you say "no," it means no. Don't give in if your
child continues to ask or plead; just stand by your decision.
Help your child understand the consequences of their actions or
choices. For example, if you are resting and your child is
playing too loudly, you can give them the choice of sitting
with you and reading a book or going to play in their room
until you come to get them.
The one that my husband and I have started using is the
"time-out." My son hates to sit still. If we have asked him to
stop doing something or he yells, we tell him to go to the
"time-out" room and think about his actions. Then we say when
he is ready to talk about it, we sit down and talk. This works
for most of his bad behavior.
There are many other alternatives; here is a list of sites for
you to take a look at:
* * The Top 10 Tips for Disciplining Toddlers by Clare Albright
* * Positive Discipline For Toddlers and Preschoolers by Meg
Berger, M.Ed.
* * Help! I Can't Control My Four Year-Old and Don't Want to
Resort to Spanking! at http://Parenthood.com
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in the baby related industry http://HappyMothers.com has the
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boy most of the time, but when he gets angry he is awful!
Disciplining your child is one of the hardest things to do as a
parent. It is important that they understand that you are in
charge, not them.
I remember getting spankings until I was around 6 or 7 years
old. I did everything I could to avoid making my mother and
father angry. I haven't spanked my son that often, but I have
had to pop him when nothing else would work. Today, parents are
looking for alternative methods of discipline and avoiding the
dreaded spanking.
By the time your baby is 4 years old, you should have already
laid down basic rules, no more than 4 or 5. The most important
part of setting the rules is to stand by them. Go over the
rules with your child whenever they break one. And do not try
to explain yourself to your child. You are the parent, what you
say goes.
Praise your child on any good behavior they demonstrate. This
is reinforce the idea that having good behavior is much better
than bad behavior. We spend alot more time scolding them for
the "bad" things they do than on the "good" things. A simple
"Thank You" is beneficial to your child.
Saying "no" makes a child very angry. It means that they do not
get their way or something they want. Use a firm tone with
authority, not an angry one. Make sure your child understands
that when you say "no," it means no. Don't give in if your
child continues to ask or plead; just stand by your decision.
Help your child understand the consequences of their actions or
choices. For example, if you are resting and your child is
playing too loudly, you can give them the choice of sitting
with you and reading a book or going to play in their room
until you come to get them.
The one that my husband and I have started using is the
"time-out." My son hates to sit still. If we have asked him to
stop doing something or he yells, we tell him to go to the
"time-out" room and think about his actions. Then we say when
he is ready to talk about it, we sit down and talk. This works
for most of his bad behavior.
There are many other alternatives; here is a list of sites for
you to take a look at:
* * The Top 10 Tips for Disciplining Toddlers by Clare Albright
* * Positive Discipline For Toddlers and Preschoolers by Meg
Berger, M.Ed.
* * Help! I Can't Control My Four Year-Old and Don't Want to
Resort to Spanking! at http://Parenthood.com
About The Author: Our History: With over 25 years of experience
in the baby related industry http://HappyMothers.com has the
most experienced and knowledgeable sales staff, and customer
service representatives. SEO by http://TrafficXTC.com
