How To Make Others Like You
Author: Codi Morieta

One of the basic needs of man is to feel accepted. Knowing this
is the secret to establishing and maintaining great
relationships with various types of people.

A number of books, articles and seminars have taken the role of
educating people like you on the different ways of associating
with people and building lasting relationships with them. There
are several things that you can do when associating with other
people.

One of these is to make them feel accepted. According to
Maslow's hierarchy of needs, one of man's basic needs is to
feel a sense of belonging to a group. Man feels the sense of
belonging in either small groups like a family and small circle
of friends, or big groups like clubs, teams, associations,
departments and parties.

People have to feel they belong and are needed. One way to
convey acceptance of people's ideas is by simply listening.
Listening communicates the message that their thoughts are
valued and their inputs are significant. It answers the very
basic need to belong and provides a sense of importance.

Have you ever been in any of the following situations?

While sharing an important insight, somebody would finish the
sentence for you.

While narrating what happened over the weekend, somebody would
butt in and narrate a similar story.

In a meeting, the boss would cut you short while you are still
explaining your side.

You ask your child about his day in school and he runs straight
to his room.

You wanted to discuss something with your spouse but he is busy
watching football.

How did you feel? Not good, right? It's as if you are taken for
granted. It's as if no one is listening to you and that you do
not matter. It signifies that your thoughts, concerns, and
ideas are not accepted.

At the onset of life, an infant can feel this sense of
acceptance from a mother who touches and caresses him in a
loving way. As he grows older, his sense of acceptance and
importance now comes from other family members, friends,
teachers, peers, bosses, officemates, spouse, children, etc.
Every person needs to be accepted. It puts meaning to a
person's existence.

Imagine a life with total absence of acceptance. Envision the
life of babies who were abandoned by their mothers. Imagine the
effect this will have on the babies' emotional well-being. It is
very possible that these kids will grow up dejected and feeling
discriminated. The effects of discrimination can result to
resentment and, if uncontrolled, can result to violent
tendencies.

The feeling of resentment that is harbored overtime can
escalate to anger and hostility. When a person becomes hostile,
violence erupts. Resentment is like a forest fire - it can turn
wild especially when fanned with more resentments. The mere
civil act of accepting a person "can make or break them," as
the saying goes.

Acceptance must be done unconditionally. The giver should not
expect anything in return. There should be no "no strings
attached" or no commitments to fulfill. To expect something in
return defeats the purpose of making others like you. In fact,
this may only breed resentment, for it would appear that you
are manipulating people by forcing them into a situation they
may not like in the future.

Unconditional acceptance of other people's thoughts, ideas, and
concerns can yield favorable outcomes. Acceptance elicits
cooperation and this leads to working towards a common goal.
Acceptance yields positive and fruitful results. At the same
time, you have raised the esteem, importance, and morale of the
person whom you have accorded respect and acceptance.

Be willing to accept other people's ideas, thoughts, and
inputs. You will harvest not only good results, but also the
admiration and appreciation of others, as well.


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