Humanizing Communication Among Men And Women
Author: Joseph Plazo

Once young boys cuss and spew foul language, their deeds are
often tolerated as typical for their age. We take for granted
that they are aiming to act big. Grown men flavor their
vocabulary with sporadic profanity and it is customarily
acceptable. On the flip side, female actions are anticipated to
be more reserved than their male counterparts. This completely
influences the interaction of both females and males. At work,
we often find ourselves at loggerheads.

Now, whether male/female disparity stem from genetic framework,
sway from parents, or cultural habituation by society, the fact
is that we are dissimilar. We perform differently. We converse
differently. Men frequently assume a direct, vigorous manner of
communicating, while women typically adopt a quieter, more
tentative, questioning approach. The result of these differing
uses of language often leads to misunderstandings. One way we
can begin to breach the communication rift is by accepting and
validating these male and female differences.

The first step toward superior communication is to recognize
our differences. Different does not mean wrong. Men tend to
identify themselves through their accomplishments. They love to
control things on their own. So at work, if a woman intimates to
a man that he could employ some help, he may feel she believes
he is inept or, worse, bungling.

Women identify who they are generally through the connectedness
of their associations and through feelings. Reorder the above
situation, and the woman may not as likely take affront at the
proposition. A great deal of our business communication is
built upon the elucidation of the male and female listener.
Words are only as practical as the way they are heard and
comprehended.

The second step is to study the system of communication. We
follow rules for virtually everything we do. As we engage in
sports, we play by the rulebook; as we drive, we pursue the
policies of safe driving, when we take part in games, we play
according to the guidelines. Master the rules that men pursue
when they commune. Endeavor to recognize the rules women also
instinctively follow for winning communication.

Realize that for communication between men and women to be
effectual, we must distinguish the dissimilarity between male
and female communication approaches. Both sexes, at home or in
the workplace, whether speaking or listening, employ
communication methods intended to meet their primary
communication needs.

Men need to feel honored, to feel well-liked, to feel
cherished, to feel accepted of, and to feel trusted. On the
flip side, women need to feel confirm, to feel respected, to
feel understood, to feel at peace, and to feel loved.


About The Author: Joseph Plazo is a renowned success coach.
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