End Your Relationship Gracefully
Author: Jennifer Taylor
Author: Jennifer Taylor
Having a loving relationship is life's greatest joy, and ending
one brings about one of life's biggest sorrows. Ending a
relationship is never an easy thing to do. On the contrary,
with your partner's feelings at stake, it is one of the hardest
things to do.
It is often as difficult on the person who is ending the
relationship as it is on their partner. You have been intimate
with this person for months or even years, and can't bear to
cause him or her any pain. You might feel guilty for causing
the breakup. You may have sleepless nights thinking things over
and over, afraid that you will regret your decision. Ending a
relationship becomes a challenge to you, and you spend all of
your time thinking of ways to do it without causing your
partner too much pain. You want and need to find a way to cut
the ties as gracefully as possible.
First and foremost, if you are about to end a relationship, you
must do it in person. It is always better to talk it over in
person, and explain your reasons fully. In doing so, you show
sincerity, integrity and respect. You will know your partner's
reaction immediately, and will be able to achieve closure more
quickly.
It takes courage and thought to end a relationship personally.
Choosing the right words will allow your partner to understand
your reasoning, and accept your decision. Meeting your partner
face-to-face is infinitely better than saying things on the
phone, by email, or even through a letter. As difficult as it
may be, this needs to be done in person, where both of you have
eye contact, and can see each other's reactions.
Before you break the bad news, give your partner a warning
sign. By saying something like "we need to talk", you're
alerting your partner that you are serious, and preparing him
or her for a possible breakup. You will soften the blow of the
revelation, and prepare your partner to better accept the bad
news. However, once you drop the initial hint, be sure that you
talk to your partner sooner than later. The waiting time can be
uncomfortable and cause your partner more pain.
When you have ended the relationship you must stand strong,
stick to your decision and be sure that your partner has the
clear message. If he or she won't accept your decision right
away, give your partner time to take it in, but don't offer
false hopes of getting back together. Say your words sincerely,
maintain an eye contact and leave no room for doubt. When your
partner argues or becomes emotional, you will feel guilty but
you must not back down. As cruel as you might feel, this is the
best way to minimize the pain that your partner will feel.
One of the most difficult events that you will ever face is
ending a relationship. However, if you know exactly what to say
and how to deliver the message, you can create less pain for
your partner, and less guilt for yourself.
About The Author: Jennifer Taylor writes for several web sites,
including http://jicaw.com and http://pynot.com
one brings about one of life's biggest sorrows. Ending a
relationship is never an easy thing to do. On the contrary,
with your partner's feelings at stake, it is one of the hardest
things to do.
It is often as difficult on the person who is ending the
relationship as it is on their partner. You have been intimate
with this person for months or even years, and can't bear to
cause him or her any pain. You might feel guilty for causing
the breakup. You may have sleepless nights thinking things over
and over, afraid that you will regret your decision. Ending a
relationship becomes a challenge to you, and you spend all of
your time thinking of ways to do it without causing your
partner too much pain. You want and need to find a way to cut
the ties as gracefully as possible.
First and foremost, if you are about to end a relationship, you
must do it in person. It is always better to talk it over in
person, and explain your reasons fully. In doing so, you show
sincerity, integrity and respect. You will know your partner's
reaction immediately, and will be able to achieve closure more
quickly.
It takes courage and thought to end a relationship personally.
Choosing the right words will allow your partner to understand
your reasoning, and accept your decision. Meeting your partner
face-to-face is infinitely better than saying things on the
phone, by email, or even through a letter. As difficult as it
may be, this needs to be done in person, where both of you have
eye contact, and can see each other's reactions.
Before you break the bad news, give your partner a warning
sign. By saying something like "we need to talk", you're
alerting your partner that you are serious, and preparing him
or her for a possible breakup. You will soften the blow of the
revelation, and prepare your partner to better accept the bad
news. However, once you drop the initial hint, be sure that you
talk to your partner sooner than later. The waiting time can be
uncomfortable and cause your partner more pain.
When you have ended the relationship you must stand strong,
stick to your decision and be sure that your partner has the
clear message. If he or she won't accept your decision right
away, give your partner time to take it in, but don't offer
false hopes of getting back together. Say your words sincerely,
maintain an eye contact and leave no room for doubt. When your
partner argues or becomes emotional, you will feel guilty but
you must not back down. As cruel as you might feel, this is the
best way to minimize the pain that your partner will feel.
One of the most difficult events that you will ever face is
ending a relationship. However, if you know exactly what to say
and how to deliver the message, you can create less pain for
your partner, and less guilt for yourself.
About The Author: Jennifer Taylor writes for several web sites,
including http://jicaw.com and http://pynot.com
